Ain’t Worried About Nothin’

Random fun fact about myself – I take great pleasure in listening to ratchet music. Yes, I also love “true” hip-hop and enjoy any artist who can write thought-provoking lyrics. And yes, I could also speak to the argument that ratchet music has aided in the destruction of a genre, but that is not the point of today’s entry! However, there is definitely a time and place for mindless music and a catchy beat. A guilty pleasure, yes, but sometimes I need music that I can zone out to or even just listen to and laugh at its utterly absurd/stupid lyrics. In reference to my post title, I will confess that I never imagined that French Montana’s lack of eloquence would inspire me to write about anything. However, that particular song started a train of thought about a common theme in my posts so far – worry.

How much time do we waste on worry? Note the word “waste” – how often does our worrying specifically solve anything? The 14th Dalai Lama has spectacular insight on the subject:  “If the situation or problem is such that it can be remedied, then there is no need to worry about it. In other words, if there is a solution or a way out of the difficulty, you do not need to be overwhelmed by it. The appropriate action is to seek its solution. Then it is clearly more sensible to spend your energy focusing on the solution rather than worrying about the problem. Alternatively, if there is no solution, no possibility of resolution, then there is also no point in being worried about it, because you cannot do anything about it anyway. In that case, the sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be for you. This formula, of course, implies directly confronting the problem and taking a realistic view. Otherwise you will be unable to find out whether or not there is a resolution to the problem.” (http://www.dalailama.com/messages/articles/counter-stress)

As is likely evident from my posts so far, I am a worrier. Unfortunately, I believe that it is in our nature to do so. However, if we do as the Dalai Lama suggests and try to view our problems as situations that can either be solved or accepted, it certainly eases our stress in life.

Day 6 of Unemployment:  I have specifically used this day as a day of attempting to NOT worry. I am posting late tonight because I tried to stay out of my apartment as much as possible. Although I did not ignore my job hunt today, I did not allow it to consume me. I ran errands (side note – Marshalls really is the best for those on a budget…$100 Michael Kors shorts for less than $30, whaaat?! Yay) and spent time with friends, including more pool time (Guess what? I have some light tan lines now! Haha).

Although in the profound song I am referencing, French Montana isn’t worried because he has multiple automatic weapons on his person to shoot down any opposition, the moments I found myself not worrying were when I was laughing with my friends. Laughter really can cure many ills. My friends are also nearly as sarcastic as I am ;). I didn’t worry as much about my unemployment today, because it is a situation that I am actively working to solve. Where my anxiety tends to lie is in situations that are out of my control. For example, I am incredibly worried about my ex-coworkers and supervisors. I know that you aren’t supposed to befriend people in the office, but I enjoy connecting with others and don’t regret it one bit. It is hard because although I fear for myself, I am also afraid for them. I miss them and want each of them to find joy. I also worry about whether or not the organizations I apply to will call me back – again, completely out of my control.  Years ago, I used to have frequent and vivid nightmares about my teeth falling out. I could feel them breaking away from my gums in some of the dreams, in others, they would crumble against my tongue and the pieces would fall into my hands, bloody and never-ending. It was horrifying! I later learned that the nightmare is a common one for people who are feeling out of control of their life. I don’t want my subconscious to be ruled by that kind of terror. I will continue to try to focus on what makes me happy, and am encouraging everyone to do the same. When you can’t control your worries, set your sights on an achievable goal that will make you feel great about yourself.

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Life will happen whether we worry about it or not. The best we can do is make the most of the time we are given.

One response to “Ain’t Worried About Nothin’

  1. I actually just had the same dialogue concerning worry. Yesterday it was my dad telling me not to worry about those things I can’t yet control (or find solutions as u put it) and today i was able to pass along the advice (and hopefully the peace that comes along with following it) to a friend of mine going through a rough patch. Thanks for reinforcing this!

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